If you’ve ever had the experience of things not going your way despite you trying so hard, you know how it feels. You think you’ve done everything you could and yet the result doesn’t budge. It’s like walking in a dark forest on your own for days with no map. You start wondering if you’ve been simply walking in circles or if you should be where you are at all. Are you on the right…
Most humans are a product of their lineages. Whether you receive the gifts and limitations of their lineage through “nature” or “nurture”, the pack of scripts (human softwares) that get passed down from generation to generation has a huge influence on who you think you are. For many, many people that actually define who they are and how they behave entirely– they’re a collection of scripts being handed down from the collective, covered by a…
Shame is one of the most powerful programming that run on the human operating system. It’s powerful partly because we impulsively want to run away from it, and what you avoid inevitably holds power over you. It’s also powerful because unlike other so called negative emotions, such as fear, sadness, and anger, the target of shame is almost always the self. Not even any ephemeral aspect of the self. But the self in its totality…
A caterpillar walks into a therapist’s office. “I’m depressed,” he says to the therapist. “Because you know what the problem of my life is? No wings. I have no fucking wings, man! Can you fix that? How can I get me some butterfly wings?” If the caterpillar were your friend, as the wise person you are, you’d probably try to talk some sense into it. You’d probably say, “Sweetheart, you don’t become a butterfly by…